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Yesterday my boyfriend Jason of 5 + months broke up with me. He did so over the phone because the previous night I had gotten black out drunk and we had a conversation that I do not remember. He was very unwilling to talk to me and did not say what I said but in one of his texts before he broke it off he said that if I did not want to be with him and the kids (his two kids from his previous marriage) than I should come and get enough stuff of mine to make it through Sunday. I called him to tell him I did want to be with him and the kids but he continued to be angry and hung up on me after I said I didn’t remember our conversation the night before. I am devastated, I did text him that I was sorry and I don’t like how I am when I black out and that I’d quit drinking if he was ok with having a straight edge girlfriend since he himself drinks beer daily. He never responded to that text but instead became more mad and broke things off.

I have been working on trust issues of mine that stem back to my childhood and jealousy issues. He has said that he has seen changes and I had just gone back to a counselor I saw when I was in a previous abusive relationship. I only went to the counselor one time but I was still showing improvement. I am very in love with Jason and wonder if anyone can give me insight on whether he will calm down and want to try and work things out. We have never broken up before and yesterday when I moved my things out and back to my place he was still very angry with me. Any insight would be appreciated.

Thank You,
Laura

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Kathy,
Thank you for the advice, I definitely don’t want a repeat performance.
Laura

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Kathy,
Do you think I should give him a second chance?
Thanks,
Laura

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Kathy,
Thanks so much for your reply and sincere words.
Sincerely,
Laura

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The guy I was seeing got back into cell phone range after being out of town for two weeks and didn’t call or text, or reply to my texts after a almost two days of being able to call or text. The 3rd day I called him and he was being really quiet on the phone, I told him I didn’t want to end things weird so I wanted to talk because I was making the assumption that he didn’t want to see me anymore. He didn’t respond and was silent for awhile. He said it wasn’t a good time to talk and he’d call me later. When he was gone he was at the burning man festival, volunteering for the first week. On the 3rd day of the festival he emailed me and told me he missed me lots, wished I was there and next year they’d get me out there. I’m thinking he found someone else but would appreciate any insight.
Thanks,
Laura

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Kathy,
Thank you so much, It’s great to hear that from you because I’m feeling the same way!
Sincerely,
Laura

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Kathy,
Thank you for your response. I really appreciate the feedback.
Sincerely,
Laura

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Thank you for the good advice. I have a lot of thinking to do because I do not quite know where I stand with some of the points you brought up.
Thank you for giving me some things to think about. 🙂

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Hello again,
It’s been almost two weeks since I’ve heard from Joey. The last time we were communicating it was thru text messaging, we were texting back and forth just fine. The last text I sent him was asking him if he had anything exciting planned for the weekend and he didn’t respond than or since. I have the feeling he met someone else before we even got the chance to go on a date. I was wondering what thoughts anyone else has?
Thanks,
Laura

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Hi Kathy,
We did have a plan to get together for dinner Monday and Tuesday last week but both days ended up not working for him because of a big job he had out of town, he owns his own company. I would like to go to dinner with him first and get to know him better before I go out on the boat. Hopefully we can go to dinner soon.
Thanks for the advice,
Laura

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Kathy,
He’s seems to be open about his situation, we live a little over an hour from each other so I know that is one thing that has prolonged us meeting. He also invited me out on his wake boarding boat the first day I met him and than a couple of times there after. I told him that until we were no longer strangers I wasn’t going out on his boat with him and his friends. He lives with room mates and has a daughter. I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said he wouldn’t be texting me if he did. He has his own business so I know that keeps him busy also. I am quite jaded and distrusting of people, sometimes it’s hard for me to use my intuition in relationships because I don’t know if it’s my distrusting nature talking or my intuition. Do you have any tips for me on how to be better about using my intuition?

Thanks so much,
Laura

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Kathy,
Thanks so much for the insight. I know this may be a silly question seeing that It is about what may happen 2 years from now but, do you see the 30% chance of things working out being before the 2 years when he may be reading for a serious relationship? Would the chance of things working out be greater when the 2 year mark happens?

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I wanted to reply about the guy I had asked about initially in this post. He and I are still friends and both single. The attraction between the two of us is still there, and I was wondering what insight anyone might have on whether the possibility of us getting together has changed since some time has pasted?
Thank You,
Laura

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Thank you both for your great insight…it was all very helpful 🙂

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Thank you for your input. Last weekend he- Mike – decided he needed a few days to think but didn’t communicate that to me, instead he didn’t call me for 2-3 days. I realized when that happened and other things bothered me, yet the thought of talking them through was too stressful to deal with, that I’m not ready for a full blown relationship. I know I have trust issues and I have worked on them but need to work on them more… I’m wondering if you think I should continue to see Mike on a casual basis or not see him at all? I really like him but it bothers me that he has bad manners, for instance, he failed to introduce my dad and I to two of his friends while we all sat within close proximity to each other for a good 15-20 minutes. Thank you for any insight you can offer and thank you for the insight you have already provided.

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