[jez]

hi Candice,

Thank you for your wishes, the good people wishes and prayers will strengthen my heart and mind and help me to come out from all troubles .sure I will post my progress in my life,
thanks,
jez

[jez]

Dear Candice,
thank you for your message, I will start working on it as immediate effect, I treasured your opinion.

thanks,
jez

[jez]

hi candice,

thank you so much for your reply.. really speaking I don’t know, I wish to go my home, but he will trace and the torture also I doubt I can bear with my present stage, as I never saved anything for me or kids as I never seen separately for me , I done everything for the family.or he never allowed me to do any work or business, even he always wished to spoil my business , so I think to live a metro city with my kids without giving any clue to him, but at present any money also sufficient to lead our life, I have to find source for their education and our 3 life too. I am doing some trading business, but I don’t know whether I can truly trust on that work, this is comfortably i can do at present with taking care of my kids as they are very small. please advice whatever possible by you, I wish to live with my self esteem and self respect I wish to not loose it. may be this is a greedy wish at my present stage.

wish you could answer me early..
thanks,
jez

[jez]

hi

thank you for your reply with good effort, but may be my problems beyond what you can expect, , “hiding “when I tell that makes real hiding of me and my kids from him, because I fear he will try best to torture me even by kidnapping and torturing my kids.I have to move without any hind or clue. he is very alert

hope is there any one could give some what correct way …. that will be a saving rope from the deep whirlpool in my life..

thanks,
jez

[jez]

Dear Candice,

As you predict right about me, I wish to get some more guidance at present situation , past 6 months everything was ok, I thought he changed, and I tried to wait and see, but now again the worst stage going on, I would like to get some advice from you regarding my present stage, and you please help me by advising the job or business I have to do for the livelihood for me and babies.

your advice will be highly appreciated, because there is not much places I can go and hide or stay long time, so if I get the idea of which area of carrier suits me, I can work on that and find some success very soon for my kids and for my life , situation is extremely bad, our country there is no trust worthy family shelter also not there.

jez

[jez]

Hi Candice,

Thank you so much for your message. Your words are given so much confident to me; I was confused whether I am right or wrong with the decision of moving out, now you made me clear everything, and I am taking everything the same way as much as you serious about this issue.. I decided to go to my parents and brother. My brother is in early 20’s that only I said he is immature to advice me, but far better than my husband all the ways, he is having responsibility and stand for me. He is with my parents. Before I leave the place I will try to get best attorney for my help. My case will be complex, and I know he will make it as a big mess, but I will fight , as a warrior, I was thinking before no need single money from him, I have to earn by myself, but your advice I have taken as serious.

My first priority is my children, and a peaceful life. I will move slow but steady and stern. I will keep on post you the progress, because you have done so much in my life, which will help me to be successful in life. If you get any insight, vision about me please post for me. I always wish to get your advices.

I started the planning already; I will think proper and move accordingly. There is no look back now; I won’t allow anything to hold me back.

Heartfelt thanks for you, and really you are blessed and I believe that God sent you to me for guidance .Thank you for your time and insights once more

Regards,
Jez

[jez]

Laura,

Thank you somuch , hope that with all good people blessings we will be very good in life.

Thanks for your blessings and energy
Regards,
jez

[jez]

Hi Candice,

Thank you so much for your message, about my husband family, what you said is correct, they love him, may be that love made him to be worst? sometime I doubt, what they do is they will criticize and cry about his attitude and behavior and hurt to them behind him, they never tell direct face to face to him, some what they do not have the courage, one thing sure, if they telling also no use, he will do what he wants, and make the situations hell to them too. If they might have consider the justice and act as per that, the things might be different?

About the woman from my husband side you said, I think my sister- in law, she always talk very nice, but definitely she will turn, because I feel she also some or otherwise like her brother. I taken your advices as very serious, I did not have the intension to tell about the secrete move to any of his part people, I thought only the moment when I move out, I thought to clear them why I am moving out, if not he will definitely make a very creative dirty story about me to all of them and make them to believe too what he said. . If you feel no need, I won’t do that too.

My brother was staying here with me was helping me two and a half years, so he knew the situations slight, and he informed me if anytime you feel to come out just come to home. But I feel he is still too young and not matured enough .Apart from him, nobody knows this problem in my family too, . I don’t wanted to inform the situation to my parents soon, they will be very sad, I want to stay with them some months, I wish to arrange a house for me and children stay by lease or rent, and wish to generate some regular income to proceed our life without depending or disturbing anybody. That only I thought to work in trading business and try to get some income for the beginning. Because I can do this right now, through internet I can do the trading and I can look after my kids same time.
Whether it will give me the initial income or I have to try for job please advice me,

The person you said from my family side , I am not getting any idea, my sister’ husband and their relations I don’t know much, anyway I will open my eyes to find that person who can give me best advice to me when it required, can you please say his age approximate.

And the matter you told me about children, that I have also taken as very very serious, I understood very clearly what you said, my husband will definitely try to take away them from me, not for their good future , defiantly for hurting me and I know if they are with him, he will make their life worst and miserable. I never have any idea to leave my children at any cost, they are my life.

I am waiting for his scheduled tour to proceed further. Please advice me,

Candice, it is so nice f you to give right advice to all who required it, can I assume that I am not bothering you by asking your advices again and again, but it is helping me so much to be inspired and courageous enough to face life, and it is helping me to erase my disappointment, pain about life. The right advice and a help to select right choices are precious. I really value and treasured your opinion and advices, and wish to get it further too, Thank you so much.

Regards,
Jez

[jez]

hello!

whether my in-laws will support me, or they will also join with him, I am little disturbed in mind . hope that I will become cool and calm.please help me by your answer

[jez]

Hello Candice Kennedy,

Thank you for your message again; I think the man you are talking about is my brother in Law. My husband family members all have respect, love and affection to me. My husband can’t tolerate it. My mother in law is crying about me and my children life future due to his irresponsible and careless way of life (they don’t know his this particular nature), My brother in law and sister –in –law have great respect for me and he admire for my works and ambitions, I am also was thinking to discuss with him regarding this issue before I leave. And I am sure that he will give me right advice and help to decision making. I know it will be a shock to all, but I think it unavoidable now, at least for my children good future. You are right, he never likes or tolerates something best for me, even a praise doing anyone (even his father and mother used to talk about me good and praises about me to him) he never likes that, immediately he will change subject. he wants me live as like a slave, if he might have trust worthy and honest to the relationship I might have lived for him, I am sad but I am ;learned to be practical, I am a person who has first preference to the husband and family. I wished a soul mate like life in relationship as man and wife, but everything happened as worst, so much I cried and shocked and pained. Anyway, I feel I don’t want to pained more by this man, I think no one may be in this world like him, completely untruthful and completely selfish. The way he is behaving with me as like truthfull husbands who never even think about other women, but he is playing same to all.

I wish to contact you personal messages, by email( I don’t know whether I can give my id here) because I know you are my well wisher I don’t want to loose any good people in my life who can support me and recharge my life with their encouraging words.

I am waiting for the time to move, I am making the move secretive only, I know how he will act and make trouble and problems if he comes to know. He knows children are my life, so he started to influence them and keep him with his side. When he realized years back I will stand against his wishes, I don’t know whether he has love for kids or just acting.

Thank you so much for your time and support, I wish the same again in my life

[jez]

Amazing!!!! I am so much excited and couldn’t believe this. Your reading as per your vision very much correct and apt. Thank you so much for your effort and help for me.

I was checking here almost everyday for an answer for my confused stage, and would like to get an advice or opinion on divorce is correct or not. Now I am feeling supported and feeling less stress, no confusion and unhappiness, confirmed my decision and I am ready to proceed further when the right time comes very soon.

Whatever you said about my husband’s nature and attitude are 100% correct, especially the phrase” He lives for the moment and cares only about himself”. He is exactly like that. I know it is my adjustment and my soft nature made this relationship long until this, if I might have responded or questioned him, I might have got worst hell, until I not respond against his act there won’t be any trouble. I also feel now he won’t change in his life time, I waited until this by the thought of that he may change.

I don’t have any friends now, and I was away from people long time, in house, never been mingled long time with people, I feel that I will be far better when I communicate with people. When the time comes I am planning to go and stay with my parents, brother and sisters for few months, it will make me to recharge myself as I am and I hope that I will become calm and systematic again.

I went through worst stage, but I always try to protect my selfness. Yes you are right I want to rebuilt my self esteem, it is badly affected.

And what you said about me also correct, I was running a garment unit for some time, and I got good reputation among my employees too. And my smile always appreciated by people and warmness too, I wonder about your insight, you are truly blessed and talented

When I read you r last paragraph, I stunned and become wordless!!!!!!.I always have a feeling that the following are my Aim or mission which I have to do to world in my life.

1) woman’s shelter, where I want to empower the women and want to make them feel that they are valuable, want to make them more self reliable, strong and face life with courage, want to counsel and save the life and would like to be a strong support for abandoned or deserted women and their children

2) And the idea of writing the book based on my life experience, which has to help people to live confident and face anything in life with patients and calm

.But I never told my this two aims to anyone until this, when I read your message the feeling I couldn’t express here, and you said it will happen successfully, that was my doubt whether my intention will be fulfilled and whether it will successful when I do these two things. Now I got answer from you that I can work on my projects confidently.

One more dream project I had in mind to promote arts. I would like to start a unique school where to train the precious varieties of music, dances, of world, paintings, yoga and other good art forms- a international school of arts.

Once after marriage I left all my wishes and ambitions and thought there is no chance for these things, but I think may be my new turn in my life will make me to fulfill everything, but for all I have to self suffient by financially.

I have one request, you said you couldn’t get clear idea about my career, may be because of my confusion, and what you said is correct I don’t know what I am good for,
Now I am doing the export trading, commodities and garments. I don’t know whether it will give benefit to me, but it is progressing slowly. And I wish to start a small outlet of dresses for ladies and kids. Whether these become successful or what I have to do… I don’t know whether I can ask this to you …..

Once more I want to say my heart full thanks to you for your precious time you spend for me
Thank you so much for your vision and insight

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