[LeslieK]

Dear Voyent,

My heart goes out to you and your fiance. He suffers low self-esteem if he is pursuing such dishonest avenues as a distraction. You have probably read that online cheating can be just as heartbreaking and damaging as a physical relationship. I do have some experience with this issue myself and have done exercises in the program to clear my psyche and help me move forward. I am a work in progress, so take my advise for what it is worth.

I know you must be very upset. I find polarizing exercises between peacefulness and fear helpful. Specifically, envision what you would feel if you and he resolve issues and he gets help for his issues or you and he peacefully end things for the positive polarity. For the negative polarity, envision him harming himself because you end things with him or the pain you continue to suffer if he refuses to change his behavior.

Also, try connection exercises where you see yourself inside of him begin to view the world as he saw/sees/will see it. Try examining his causes of low self-esteem and background that may be promoting/enabling his painful choices. Try to remove yourself enough to get a clearer perspective on all of this, even if it means taking a weekend off to visit trusted family/friends. Even keeping a dream dictionary would help, especially if you are able to do lucid dreaming.

Above all, do not blame yourself for your fiance’s conduct. He has pain within himself that he either cannot identify or does not wish to tackle at present. While he is the only one who can reconcile and change his behavior, I applaud you for trying to be compassionate in your response to him. If he truly is suicidal and you need to leave to protect yourself, try and enlist the help of a counselor, family, and friends. If you can afford it, try and reach out to Dale during one of his weekend special offers for intuitive counseling. Even ten minutes could give you specific ideas of how to move forward.

Godspeed,
L

[LeslieK]

Sorry to be delayed on follow up. The spirit seems to have either left or at least reduced it’s activity. We actually had a open-minded priest bless our home. He and I both heard the loud “settling” as he was blessing the home. I had tried cleaning exercises previously and feel the prayer provided a final nudge. Keep in mind I felt this prayer was like a cleaning exercise and went through the visualizations.

[LeslieK]

It is coming up in lesson six. Lesson six is very helpful for healing from toxic relationships. Good luck!

[LeslieK]

It is never easy to see an ex, especially if there was a super deep connection. Have the connection removal exercises helped at all? It is a glimmer of light that the dread does not last as long as it used to.

Good Luck,
Leslie

[LeslieK]

Thanks for the insight, Nicole. I agree that a spirit is trying to make itself known. I continue doing connection removal exercises since there does not seem to be additional info and the presence scares my kids.

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