Focusing inward, into how you are participating, may be the key to healing a relationship

Relationship Roles – what role are you playing in relationships?

As an Intuitive Counselor, many of my clients want to know about the relationship area of their life. They want to know when an absent or former lover will come back, how a romantic partner really feels, or what the final outcome of a relationship will be. While these are important questions, people often do not consider their role in the relationship.

In your relationship, especially if you are faced with a challenge, how are you participating? Are you grounded and accepting of any outcome or are you needy, desperate, or leachy?

Are you trying to dominate or control everything? Are you stressed out and depressed or are you lighthearted, flexible, and confident that everything will be okay? Do you work to escalate conflicts when they occur or do you take conscious steps to avoid the drama and keep the focus on what is positive?

Regardless of what your partner is doing or will do, your attitude, emotions, and expectations will have an impact over what occurs in the relationship. For example, most people are not attracted to someone who is needy, wounded, or depressed. If this is what you are projecting in the relationship, this is not likely going to help to bring your partner closer to you.

Everyone Is Psychic To Some Degree

Your tone of voice, what you say, your body language, and your focus in conversations will demonstrate how you are participating to your romantic partner. But many people fail to realize what they are projecting on a psychic level. Science has proven again and again that we are all psychic, at least on some degree.

Regardless of what you are projecting on the outside, your partner will likely sense what is occurring deep within you. This happens in the same way that family members psychically sense tragedies involving loved ones, even when something occurs thousands of miles away.

These types of psychic connections are even stronger between intimate partners, especially when there is a sexual history. Because of this, if you desire to improve a relationship, you have to fix what is occurring deep within you, not just what is on the surface.

Don’t Worry, It’s Not Only Up To You

I’m in no way implying that it will be solely your fault if you don’t achieve your ideal relationship outcome. I am simply encouraging you to focus on your side of the equation. Most often, you can’t do anything to control the other person in a relationship, but you can control your participation. As far as getting what you ultimately want, your participation is the best thing you can take control of to influence the direction or outcome of the relationship.

By understanding what role you are playing in the intimate or romantic area of your life, the actions that must be taken to improve your situation becomes clearer. Maybe you need to find a way of looking at the situation that doesn’t leave you feeling rejected, undesirable or depressed. Maybe you need to shift some of the energy that is going into the relationship into a different area of your life. Maybe you need to acquire training which allows you to get control over your emotions, focus, and thinking. What specifically needs to be done will be unique to each individual.

You Don’t Have To Do It All Alone

How you are participating in a relationship can be difficult to see in yourself. Don’t be shy about using the available resources to make these inner discoveries.

There are books and different types of professional services that can assist you with this. As a psychic, I regularly help people discover these hidden roles and what steps need to be taken to improve a relationship or give it the best chance of succeeding. You can see the details of my service here: Psychic Counseling

Whatever you do, especially if the relationship area of your life is on the brink, make a conscious effort to explore what roles you are playing in the relationship. Look at how you are participating and ask yourself if you are helping or making matters worse. Then, look at what immediate changes you can make to improve the relationship and take action – there is almost always something that can be done.