It seems that he basically becomes uncommunicative when things aren’t going his way? You should not have to be expected to agree with him on all issues. You have the right to your own opinion. He will surface in time, but this pattern might continue to repeat itself.

So you are doing your best to be a good friend to him, but your first…[Read more]

Thank you Stephanie and welcome to the LifeLeap Community!

Kimberly,
This guy is really a jerk! He doesn’t have much in the way of a conscience. He calls you on Christmas Eve to tell you that he has been cheating on you– He doesn’t know what he wants. I sense that his new relationship will not last– he will not marry the lady with the 4 kids and he will not have a child with her.

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I sense that you are having some doubts about this relationship? Right now you might just want to take things slow to see how they develop. It is important to give him some space while you get to know him better. You obviously care for him very much!

Best wishes,
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You are exactly right about the major commitment issue. He cares for you and he is frightened by what he feels. His fear of commitment is stronger than his desire to be with you. Then when he sees you or thinks about you he wants to take that chance. Then he gets scared and backs off. This is very unfair to you!

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You want what is best for Aaron. It might be difficult for him to express himself. His actions toward you will tell you what he is thinking. Before you try to move him out of the group home, make sure that his needs can be met where you are moving. Would he be comfortable with room mates? It might be best to just take this slowly and make…[Read more]

You mention that this is an on/off relationship. The chances are that you will hear from him again. However, you certainly don’t want it to continue to be on/off. It is important to discuss the issues that are driving a wedge into the relationship. It is important not to force him into a commintment right now.

Best wishes,
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You might want to find a way to contact him. It is much easier these days with various different internet search engines. If you were on good terms the last time you were in contact, the chances are that he would be glad to hear from you.

Best wishes,
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Veronica,
Welcome to the forums!
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Hopefully you can be at peace with your decision not to contact him. Just focus on the new year and the better things that may come your way!

Best wishes,
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In this scenario, you will need to contact him. Is it possible to do this via written communication? By doing it this way you will feel less vulnerable. You will also have the opportunity to express yourself and say everything that you intend to. If he receives something in writing he is more likely to read it and think about it.

Best wishes,
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Continue to apply for every type of job that you qualify for or could qualify for. Your chances of getting a permanent position will be better just after the holidays. I have a feeling that you will be feeling more settled by the end of the first quarter of the new year.

Best wishes,
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It is important that you make an effort to talk. You need to feel that you are doing all that you can to find out if the relationship can be repaired.

Best wishes,
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It is really difficult to determine a specific timeframe, because our future isn’t actually set in stone. Think of life as a highway that you journey along. There are various different detours available and a lot of what happens depends on the path you choose. I see you having success by being true to yourself. Don’t feel that you have to…[Read more]