Your ex will ultimately influence how his daughters feel about him. You are so right– if he keeps in touch they will remember him. If he doesn’t, they are likely not to remember much about him. You could have your girls send pictures to him. This would be a reminder of how quickly time passes and they will be growing.

You know in your heart…[Read more]

You will know in you heart that you have tried when you ask him to talk to your daughters with you. I sense that his new relationship will not last for the long term. So you need not worry about what she will think. If he wants to remain close to his daughters he needs to make an effort. They are very young and if he doesn’t keep in contact…[Read more]

If he would agree to it, now would be a good time for both of you to sit down with the girls and explain that while you are no longer living together as a family, both their daddy and you love them very much. It would be more beneficial to the girls if he would take them somewhere on an outing to spend quality time with them instead of taking…[Read more]

He should explain to his daughters that even though they will not be living together as a family, he still loves them very much. You will allow him to see them if he wants. There is time for him to talk to them before you move out of the area. He should do this while he has the chance. So if the opportunity presents itself, you might want to…[Read more]

Kimberly,
Don’t worry about your friend. In time she will feel very sorry she acted this way. Your ex chose to leave his family. How did he choose to explain this to his daughters? You are doing the best you can by moving back to where you have family who can help you. You can work out a custody and visiting arrangement with your ex. He…[Read more]

Kimberly,
I sense that your friend was caught up in her own thoughts and things weren’t going well for her. That is why she made that remark. Good friends are supposed to help each other through difficult times. Not kick someone when they are down Just focus on your move and making new friends.

Best wishes,
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I sense you are having some doubts about your 4 year relationship? Also if you can get ahead financially? If you could secure a job that would meet your individual financial needs, this would help to boost your confidence. You would also feel more in a position to make decisions for yourself.

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Kimberly,
Please don’t blame yourself for what went wrong in this relationship. If he was uncomfortable with aspects of the relationship he should have wanted to discuss the situation before leaving. He might not know what he really wants right now. You are doing your best to move on and I do believe you will benefit from putting some…[Read more]

If you could please tell us a bit more about your situation we will do our best to help you. Do you have a specific question?

Best wishes,
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You have been chatting for over a month — have you discussed meeting in person? You obviously enjoy this communication, do you feel that it is time to meet? If he drags his feet about doing this he might have some other things going on as well. If you are able to actually meet him you will have a better sense if this is something you wish to…[Read more]

Kimberly,
It is only natural that you are having these feeling of conflict right now. You have made the decision to move back to New York where you have family who can help you. Your daughters will also benefit from having family nearby. Your ex should be providing financial support for your daughters. You might do well to consult an attorney…[Read more]

Kimberly,
Welcome to the forums! So glad that you are finding them interesting and informative–

Best wishes,
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Helen,
Our future isn’t exactly set in stone. A lot depends upon the path that we choose to take. In this case the road to this particular friendship might have different results regarding the actions that you choose to take. You are already feeling that a long term relationship in not in store, but you are seeing the possibility of a lasting…[Read more]

Helen,
Welcome to the forums! You feel that you have met him for a purpose. If you feel that a romantic relationship will not be for the long term, there is no reason why you couldn’t remain friends. The purpose of your meeting him might come to light as you continue to communicate with him. Because of your geographical distance you aren’t…[Read more]

Sam,
I sense that he is someone who fears a commitment. He is being honest in the respect that he is not ready to get involved. He most likely does care for you, but he is fearful of his feelings for you. He prefers an online communication because he is not pressured to answer all questions or to explain himself. So it would be best for now if…[Read more]

Welcome to the forums Sam!

There is so much useful information to be found here.
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I sense that you have an interest in really getting involved and doing things that will make a difference in the community. Also that you have the ability to more than meet the expectations of your current position. If you continue to do your job to the best of your ability and demonstrate an interest for advancement, it is likely to be…[Read more]

Welcome to the forums!

You might do well to give it some time in your new department. Then you will have a better feeling for what you really want to do. You will receive more gratification from doing the type of work that you enjoy the most. It does sound like an interesting field to be working in!

Best wishes,
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It is just very sad that every time he resurfaces that you are the one who ends up getting hurt. He will be back in contact, but you do realize that you need to live for yourself. He knows that you will always accept him. However, you need to follow the path of what is right for you in your life. Just know that you are doing and have done all…[Read more]

It seems that he basically becomes uncommunicative when things aren’t going his way? You should not have to be expected to agree with him on all issues. You have the right to your own opinion. He will surface in time, but this pattern might continue to repeat itself.

So you are doing your best to be a good friend to him, but your first…[Read more]