[brian424]

Hi Christopher,

Girls are not that hard to figure out. I see so many guys having issues being able to figure girls out and it is so simple. People in general are easy to figure out. You just have to pay attention. I used to be like you when I was high school, I couldn’t figure out girls and I just wanted to be in a relationship. Now I have no trouble attracting the best looking girls and all my friends are jealous. How you might ask? Because I changed my way of thinking. Stop putting girls up on pedestals, they are no different than you or I. Also, one of the biggest mistakes I see so many people make is to think that being in a relationship will all of a sudden make their life that much better. Being in a relationship makes life harder, because now you have that other person you have to make time for and the stresses that come from a relationship. You can’t rely on another person for your happiness, you need to be happy with yourself before you go into a relationship, otherwise it is doomed from the start.

Now I’m going to be completely honest, your problem with girls is that you are too desperate to get in a relationship. Girls can smell desperation like blood hounds. There is a theory in Psychology called String Theory, it was an experiment with cats, but can be seen in humans as well. Now if you take string and move it around and dangle it in front of a cat, most of the time they will go nuts and go after the string, but if you throw the string down on the floor next to the cat, the cat loses interest. Now think about girls, if a girl can easily have you if she wanted, why would she want you? Even if a girl tells you she isn’t like that, I can guarantee she is, cause she can’t control it. If she doesn’t have to work a little for you than she won’t be interested. A lot of girls tell me I’m wrong, but don’t they all have that one really super nice friend that is interested in them, but they only see as a friend. Attraction isn’t a choice. Girls want a guy that is confident, some one that can make them laugh, and someone who can protect them (I don’t work out, so it isn’t about having a bunch of muscles, it is about making her feel safe). I’ve had a bunch of girls tell me I wasn’t their type because I didn’t have huge muscles, but after a few days of talking to me, they want to date me. So like I said attraction isn’t a choice.

One of my favorite things to do is people watching. Just go to the mall, your school (if you’re still in school), or a park. Somewhere a lot of people are at and just watch interactions between people. Learn to read body language. A lot of times you can see the one guy that is really interested in a girl, but the girl pays him no mind or vise versa. Look at the body language. It is said that 90% of the communication between people is through body language while 10% is actual talking. Girls want to be in relationship just as much if not more than guys do, it is just girls aren’t basing their decisions off of a guys looks all the time. As guys we are visual creatures, we will want to be with a girl just because she is attractive, but girls want someone with personality. Now I could sit here all day and talk about this subject and how to attract girls, but I don’t have that kind of time. It is up to you to be able to figure it out on your own. You will only learn by experiencing it, not behind a computer screen.

So stop texting girls so much and if they don’t respond then chalk it up to them not being interested. Don’t try to force it. Don’t ask them what you did wrong. That shows you lack confidence. If they want to talk to you they will find a way to contact you. You really need to not email or text them and spend all the time talking to them on facebook. If you see them on a regular basis then talk to them in person, you’re not going to be able to have a relationship through facebook, so you should get used to spending time with them in person. Now if it is someone you usually don’t see all the time than yea a facebook chat or email is fine, but don’t do it all the time where you seem obsessed. If you have a girls number than call her. Only time I ever really text a girl is if I know she is at work/class or just to send a “what’s up?” or something small. If I’m going to have a conversation I’m going to talk to her, not have it through text. I personally find it annoying when text conversations get too long.

You have to chase a girl in the beginning, unless she is already attracted to you, but you get to a point where she is comfortable with you and then you don’t have to chase her, she will chase you. You can tell you hit this point when she starts telling you stuff about her that you know she doesn’t tell everyone, that is the point where she trusts you. You break that trust you’re done, don’t let it go to your head. A good way to get to this point is the questions game. This usually will only work on a girl that you know a little bit, but not a lot. Tell her you want to get to know her better so lets play the questions game. You each ask a question about the other person, that person can ask the same question about you, but that doesn’t count as the question they need to ask during their turn. It usually starts out as small innocent questions like what is your favorite color/animal/subject in school/movie/etc. But you will be surprised how quickly the questions change and become more serious. I had a girl that jumped from asking my favorite ice cream flavor to a question about what I find attractive in a woman and if I would date her. Once she starts seeing you have more and more in common she will start to feel like she knows you more and is comfortable with you. Don’t lie in the questions to try and make her like you more. If she finds out you lied you’re done. Just be yourself, if she don’t like that, then o well her loss.

Now I realize that what I just said may come off as being mean, but this is reality my friend. People don’t just randomly fall in love like in the movies. You gotta show a girl, why you are different than all the other guys.

Hope this helps,
~Brian

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I think aimee does use her site to keep in touch with friends. I just get the feeling that he is older then her. like at least a year or a few months. I dont know why, but i do. But i have checked all the names of any mike on the dean’s list and none of them are him, so we know that he obviously isnt doing as well as aimee in school. Yes it is a national website. It is like looking for a needle in a haystack. I’ll keep trying to look though to see what i can find. I hope the relationship doesnt make it through the summer because he doesnt make her a priority. Do you still see that 3? It seems like you were dead on on the previous things of how the ice was gonna be broken and then aimee waves to me. It just seems like things were setting up to work out for me. I’ll keep looking at her site, hopefully they break up soon. It is just tough, not knowing what is going on and hoping things work out. Kind of at a loss as to what to do. I know i should keep checking her site, but i really do hope they break up. I just dont want this wait to be for nothing.

If they do break up I’ll make sure to send her a message. In her last relationship she broke up and when i messaged her she started talking to me again. It was like she got into that relationship with an ex-boyfriend that hurt her before and kind of stopped talking to me for a few months, then they break up in the end of january; the beginning of our spring semester. At the end of that semester is when she got with mike. Her previous boyfriend went to another school. He just came back into her life and eventually broke up with her. I think that he wanted more then what she wanted to give him because from what i know he was used to getting girls and was in a frat. It is like none of her boyfriends make her a priority. If they break up, I’ll make sure to make our date very nice for her. Even if mike isnt graduating, they suggest to look for internships during your junior year into you senior. So the job search thing may play a factor. If mike is still there and they break up and if she gets together with me the good thing about being in my major is that we have our own lab, that only a select few people have access to. So if she needed somewhere to go to get away from say, mike, then i could take her there. Plus I’ll have no problem dealing with him. What was it that you saw in the “preview” of their breakup that you saw? Do you see them doing anything now, like going out? Cause of the fact that they dont have to worry about school, do you think the neglect has started. I remember you said before that mike seemed like he was in a transition. Any idea what that transition could have been?

I think aimee will just be working during the summer, but I’m not sure. It is tough not knowing because she isnt talking to me. Just feel like it is because of mike because why would she wave to me and smile, but not talk to me? So do you think it is not a matter of if they will break up but instead of when they will break up? It just seems like she put up new pictures of her ex and her when they were going out literally a few weeks before they broke up. Like she was trying to convince herself they were together just like this photo she recently put up of her and mike. I’ve even had my mom look at her picture and she said that she doesnt get anything from it. That she doesnt feel like they are right for each other, that it doesnt look like they will last. Said that mike looks like he was a camera hog in the picture.

Anyway, i hope everything works out. I’ll try to keep positive. Just kind of getting worried now.

[brian424]

hey kathy,

Finals were rough. I think my major has to have some of the toughest exams. It really makes me use my mind to figure things out. I guess that is why i chose this major in the first place…..it is a challenge. 🙂

The mike on this site posted some new photos of places he has been and i cant see the person in it well, but it doesnt look like aimee’s mike. so i dont think this is the right mike. Which puts me back in square one, I am not sure if this mike is graduating or not. The thing is that the mike i found goes to my school because his name is in the directory and it is in the same area. Bur if he is graduating then it would be this saturday. I looked for any other mikes but i couldnt seem to find any that are him. Also checked aimee’s list of friends and the funny thing is she doesnt even have any friends named mike. It seems like aimee is a lot like me in the sense that we may have friends but there is few people we consider true friends. Can you see what he looks like through what i have seen? or what is currently going on with him now? or if things are starting to brew or go wrong between them?

I’ll make sure to send aimee the message when she changes her status. you think it would be ok to send it the day that she changes it? When aimee responds I’ll make sure to ask her out. If she responses to what i ask her about how her summer is going, then I am probably going to respond to what she says and at the end of the message say, “I want to take you out aimee” or something like that. Ive been looking for restaurants in the area and there seems to be a few, but they seem to be really busy on weekends, so im not sure which one i should look into. I’m excited but also nervous because i want to impress aimee enough to get a second date and more dates after that.

You know that makes me really happy to know that you think aimee has really missed my friendship because i miss her friendship as well. I never really think that people miss me or that i have an effect on people’s lives, but i have started to notice this more, especially in friends. I’ve also noticed that a lot of family members want me to hang out with them more. But most of all it makes me happy to know that aimee hasnt just forgotten me as some guy she used to talk to, but that i have had enough of an effect on her to have her miss me. Sometimes at random times i will feel a feeling as if i was missing someone, like i am feeling her missing me, but it just seems to happen at night, like maybe she is thinking about me before bed. I wonder if she told any of her friends or family about me. 🙂

That is pretty bad that mike is gonna go for the coward’s way out and stop calling her. That is pretty low. But let him do it, it will be better for me. 🙂 If he tells her that he cant have the pressure of having to call her as often, I think she may just break up with him right there. Calling and talking to a girl is a corner stone of being in a relationship and saying something like that would probably make her question why they are still even together. I know i would call her every night and wish her good night then maybe text her little messages to wake up to. Just to make her smile in the morning.

You are right i will make her a priority; I guess i get that from being raised by all women. I’ve even helped friends get girls’ numbers of girls that they liked but didnt know what to do to get their number. So i told them what to say and sure enough they ended the conversation, after some flirting of course, with the girl’s number and they thanked me. Funny thing is that some of these guys were good looking guys that i thought had it easy. Just puts some things into perspective that just because they are good looking doesnt mean that they know what to do. I just listen to what i feel i should say and what i think will make the girl smile and it seems to work out. I seem to have the “awww” effect on girls, have even gotten aimee to go “aww” a few times, which really made me smile. 🙂 I dont know if any of aimee’s ex-boyfriends have ever made her a priority or not, but i think that is what she is looking for in a relationship, but has had trouble finding a guy that would do it for her. If we get into a relationship, I will make sure to make it the best relationship she has ever been in. I hope my compliment will lift her spirits because that is all i really want to see is her to be happy and smile. 🙂

That is pretty cool how you saw those tulips. It does seem like a movie preview. 🙂 I do plan to get her some tulips, maybe from the florist down the street from my apartment in Pennsylvania, when i go up to take her out. They have some pretty tulip arrangements. Funny thing was today, my mom brought in a home improvement magazine she had in the car and sure enough the cover was of tulips. sign? just seemed to be more then just coincidence. 🙂

I’ll hang in there. Heck, I’ve been waiting this long, what is another month? lol but you know aimee is worth this wait. The thing that i find pretty interesting is back in high school when i was looking at colleges. Penn State wasnt one that i was even considering, but my mom told me to go to their presentation at my school and I did and filled out a form to get information from them, they asked which campus i was considering. I said York, PA campus cause it was closer to my home in maryland. I didnt think anything more of it. Come senior year, it was half way through the year and i was finalizing my applications to colleges when we had to go to our guidance counselors and to meet with the college guidance counselor to about which ones i wanted to apply to. I told him, they were mainly schools in maryland and I told him about how i looked at penn state york and he suggested i look into penn state harrisburg campus because they had the major i was looking for. I went to a financial meeting at their school on financial aid and got to meet the chair of my major and the guy was a genius having gone to MIT and I wanted to then go there just to learn from him. Well I applied to Penn State Harrisburg. Got in and went to their orientation where we had to meet a bunch of other students and that is where i first met aimee. I was talking to a friend who also went to high school with me that was going to the same penn state as me and i heard this laugh that i just loved and i turn around to see aimee for the first time talking to this other guy. Then we had to go around and tell everyone our names and shake their hands. The first thought that hit me when i saw her was that i wanted to go out with her. I just had trouble getting up the nerve to do that. So i am really happy that i have effected her enough for her to miss me. It just seems like too much of a coincidence. It is like the universe wants us to get together. The fact that this school wasnt even on my list but to have a guidance counselor tell me to look at it and I love the program and decide to go there just to meet this awesome girl that I just click with and have a good chance of dating very soon. It is funny how life works.

I’ll let you know if anything happens. Hopefully it happens soon. 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I really cant wait for the next few weeks. When aimee and mike break up. Im excited about being able to take aimee out. 🙂

If this mike that i found is aimee’s mike then I know for a while he didnt have that he was in a relationship at all, then he switched it to in a relationship, then to in an open relationship, then back to in a relationship then took it off his profile. Like I said, if this is the mike. Yes aimee does have that she is in a relationship and has a picture of him, if this is the right mike, he doesnt even have a picture of himself up. See that is what i also get, the sense that aimee is starting to question their relationship and is maybe starting to see the neglect and trying to convince herself that he isnt using her and that they are a couple. I hope mike continues to make no real effort, that is better for me. What i dont understand is why he got into a relationship with her if he was just gonna use her? I hope something big happens soon and causes them to break up.

I know aimee doesnt make visiting her site a priority, but i believe that she has the site forward an email to her email when someone comments on her site or messages her, etc. Because i get emails when someone does that to me. Also, every time I have ever sent her anything, she has usually at least read it within that day or a day after depending on what time i sent it. Aimee seems to not visit her site much when she isnt talking to me. When she is talking to me she seems to be on there a bunch. Even when mike and her first got together she was on there a lot talking to me when i messaged her. things just seemed to fall apart and she stopped talking to me. It just seems things change when she stops talking to me. like she isnt as happy or stuff like that. it is weird like some force is trying to hit us over the head and saying “you see you guys are happy together but not so apart, so get together.” Do you think aimee feels the connection with me like i feel with her? it just seems that way, just because of how easily we clicked from the start. So you think once she changes her status she will be ready to date again? that’s great news. 🙂

This is my plan, once i noticed that aimee has changed her status, i may wait a day or so, but then message her asking her how her summer is so far or how she did in her classes depending on how long from the end of school the breakup occurs, I was thinking about maybe throwing a compliment in there as well. Then if she responds tell her i want to take her out and hopefully she wants to go out. Is there anything you see or sense that this will work?

Also, the other thing i have been thinking about is where i should take her. Usually I’m good with being creative, i.e. the origami flowers for her, etc. but for some reason i am having trouble choosing where i should take her. i think a movie would be great, then maybe talking afterwards, but i was also thinking about minigolf, im just not sure. i want to be creative but i also want it to be light hearted. can you see anything of where i should take her that would make her want a second date?

sorry about all the questions, just trying to get everything worked out in my head before this blows up with aimee and mike. hopefully aimee gives me her phone number before our date so i can at least talk to her during the week. And you are right aimee does have a terrific attitude and that is what i like about her. she makes me feel like no other girl has. I’ll also, let you know when things happen and I hope it is good news soon too. 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I am a lot more confident and happy then i used to be a few months ago and I dont wanna go back to the way it was before. To think all i had to do was change my way of thinking. 🙂 I hope to hear about the internship soon. I am also sending a friend of mine my resume because he said the company he works for found that they had a lot more internship money then they originally thought. It was the original internship i talked about where i would get to work remotely. Either way they are both involved with the government, so i hope i get a least one. 🙂

I also think the picture with mike is bizarre. I’m not sure if the mike i found on the site is him or not. I could have the wrong last name. I’m not sure, but if it is him, he has a picture of some flag of his culture or something. like i said i could have the wrong mike. The way he looks in the picture, it does look like she asked him for a picture and he didnt really want to. He could crop her out of the picture the way it is. So if he did want to use it as himself alone he could. I found that very weird as well, that is why i asked what you thought, because it doesnt make sense with finals this week and she didnt do anything else on her site but change that picture and having not been on there for almost 3 weeks, why just get on to change a picture. It just seems strange, kind of like maybe she is trying to convince herself that she is happy with mike but really isnt? Like i said before i get weird feelings when she posts new pictures like i feel like i know what she is thinking sometimes. I feel she is just putting that up to try and convince herself that she is happy, but im not certain. what do you think? is there anyway you can tell what both of them are thinking now?

That makes sense in what you said about aimee letting it go because they are in that class together. I can only imagine how she feels. It would kind of feel like being trapped in something you dont want to. I think she really means well and doesnt like when a break up occurs, because i think she really puts her heart into a relationship and i think she is trying to make it work, but both parties need to work at it. They do have to take their final together in the same location. And this is the only class i know they have together, i dont know if they share any others. I think mike will be in for a rude awaking too because the business world isnt doing too well these days and if he needs aimee’s help to pass his classes then why would a company hire him? Aimee on the other hand has a 4.0 gpa so they know she knows her stuff and that she is dedicated, so i think she will have a better chance then him when she graduates.

The official last day of classes was last friday, but the last day of school overall after exams is this thursday. Which i didnt even think about this till now, that this week will be a 3-day weekend because the professors are not aloud to schedule exams this friday. I hope what is brewing wont wait till memorial day weekend, the sooner the better and aimee and i can get together. 🙂 That is weird that the 3 is changing the way it is distorted and flashing just seems like something is amidst and that a blow up is coming soon. Cause all the flashings i know of are always warnings of things to come soon. If that is the case that would be great for me. Do you think it is aimee getting tired of mike using her and not paying attention to her? or do you think it is a matter of something with mike? that is that is not right in la la land.

also, i noticed in the picture the couch and the wall in it are the same as in other picture where it is just aimee so that leads me to believe that the picture was taken when mike was at aimee’s house. possibly studying? well aimee studying and mike not doing as much.

anyway, I’ll keep up on the site spying. so far nothing has changed. I’ll also enjoy my last week of exams and I cant wait to finally have aimee soon. 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

It is pretty crazy how great i feel. I’m not used to feeling this good. I’ve always had a tough, gloomy life and it is pretty cool how just changing my outlook makes things happen and work out. I really do feel like i am going through a transition to a better happier life.

I hope aimee would be glad that i care about her when she finally sees that. it is funny that you mention to keep up my site spying. because i just randomly decided to go on my site this morning, like i felt i should, and i noticed that a few hours before you responded that aimee uploaded a new picture of her and mike. she is leaning her head on him and has her arm around him, but he doesnt have any of that, he is just sitting there looking weird. It looks like he is holding the camera because he is taking up the majority of the picture. it kind of looks like he was taking a picture of himself and she leaned into it. even though they both are smiling, i get the sense that aimee isnt happy. just because of her body language, i just get that sense. when looking at pictures of her and her friend she is smiling and looks carefree, yet with mike she looks like she has a lot on her mind and that maybe she is just faking a smile. Im not sure but i just get a sense that something is not right, they just dont look right together. that last time she was on was the 8th when i sent her that easter message when i mentioned the tulips. then she logs on this time on the 28th, which is almost 3 weeks from the time she read my message, i dont know if that means anythin, just kind of weird how 3 factors in yet again. From what i noticed she just logged on uploaded that picture, made it her default and logged out. i just found it strange that she would just log on to upload one picture. just seems like something is going on, like mike said something or something. maybe im looking into this too much, but i just get the sense that somethings is brewing. do you see anything that is going on? i just get the feeling that something is gonna happen soon.

I’ll make sure to send her that message when they break up. I also think that she knows im interested in her, heck i sure have shown it huh? lol but i will reaffirm this when they do break up. Life does seem like a cross roads. back last spring, i was so busy and aimee was busy with school that i wanted to wait till after finals to ask aimee out and sure enough the weekend before finals she changed her status to in a relationship. It was like mike came along and took away what i was going to have. but i wont let it happen this time. I am determined and going after what i want. I think we are gonna be really happy together. i cant wait! 🙂

It makes sense that aimee would be focusing on finals. she is a good student, trying to keep her 4.0 gpa. It is also good news to hear that she might not be happy with mike. well that is good news for me, not him. Let her come to me, I’ll treat her right, unlike him, I’ll appreciate her. 🙂

That story about your friend’s cat was pretty cool how it was the 4th house from the corner. Makes me even more excited that this 3 you are seeing may be of short duration and seems to be coming up soon. I hope your workshop works out for you and you get to go. I just finished my last class tonight, talking about problems that are impossible to logically solve in a quick time for a computer, which is pretty interesting. I just have to work on a few projects and take exams next week. You are right about people on different schedules because exam times are crazy and my one class has had the exam time switched t times already. so hopefully i do run into aimee and we get to talk, that would be pretty fun. 🙂

thanks again kathy for hanging in there with me and basically changing my outlook on life and making life a lot more fun! 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

only a day with 2 classes and a week of exams left! 🙂 I am ready for some new summer adventures. I had an awesome birthday. my aunt, uncle, mom, older sister and her boyfriend really made it great. The best part is that even though it was small, I am the only person in the family that anyone threw a party for their 21st birthday. really made me see how much some people care in my family. 🙂

That is pretty selfish of mike to evaluate friendships by what others can do for him. I know a lot of people want to be friends with me because I’m a fun person to be around and I can always get anyone to laugh. 🙂 That is great hearing that you think aimee and I would be happy together. I really do think we could as well. Mow the only thing is to get to that point of actually being together. 😉 I think I can show her that not all guys are the same and that i really do care about her, having waited this long just for her.

Also, I dont know if it is because I’m 21 or the positive energy or what, but it is like I sense things more. my environment around me just seems different. heck, I was walking to school this week and I couldn’t keep a smile off my face, which is a change because usually I am thinking about how to solve the different problems on my homework when i walk to school and am usually not smiling, but this week it is different. maybe it is because it is coming closer to the time when aimee and mike are going to break up and I’m getting excited! 🙂 On a few of my walks home, i was even visualizing aimee in my apartment and I was showing her the different songs i could play on guitar and just goofing around with her and making her laugh. it felt so real and i was visualizing everything that was said, but it was just in my head. it was just so vivid and clear. it has been happening almost everyday now when i walk home.

Do you think that the fact that the 3 is a short, fat 3 instead of a big, fat 3 that it could mean in the near future? like 3 weeks instead of three months? it just seems that way to me because back in march i remember you saying that it was a big, fat t. that is really weird that 3 seems to keep popping up. 3 weeks after we are out of school till a 3 day weekend.

I will make sure to message aimee when she changes her status on her site. Hopefully she responds and takes me up on my offer as soon as i give it. 🙂 I know during the week i could call her and talk with her seeing i could only see her on the weekends. I know i would enjoy that and it would make me feel great just being able to take her out and spend time with her. 🙂 Like you said I think aimee does miss the conversations we had. Even though they sometimes were pretty goofy, i think she enjoyed them. I think she misses my listening and caring about what is going on with her. I just dont feel she has found any other guy that is like me. 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

Two more weeks left of school! 🙂 well really one week and a week of finals. next two weeks are gonna be rough and are filled with quizzes and assignments then exams. But i cant seem to lose my good mood. just because i know what is to come. Even my friends have noticed my change in attitude as being more positive. 🙂 just enjoying life. I was talking about music so much that a friend of mine bought a guitar today. Which i can also feel coming back. I’ve been so busy with school that I put music on the back burner but now with the end of the semester coming i am getting the urge to get back into writing. 🙂

I’m glad the fact of aimee and I seeing each other is intriguing aimee as much as it me. I also found that interesting that he is always behind her. what do you think that could mean? I also found it not right that he never had his arm around her. It seems to me if you truly cared about a someone you would want them to be close. I just always get the sense, when i see them or their pictures, that they are not right for each other. Mike seems too involved in himself to care what is going on with aimee and i think aimee is down to earth and needs someone that is down to earth as well as a boyfriend. I think that is another reason why we always got along. It is kind of weird, how we just clicked and we always seemed to put a smile on each other’s face. 🙂

You know i didnt even think of leaving sometime out. saying sometime after that just seemed like second nature, but that makes perfect sense though to leave it out; get her thinking about it. 🙂

I’ll keep up being happy and the positive energy especially for aimee. I really do hope i get this internship, but i’ll also have to look at other places just in case, but i really want to get into something with my major. I hope your workshop works out and you get to go to it!

Mike does seem like he would take the coward’s way out. I always seemed to get that from him. that he wouldnt have the nerve to just end it, but to just let it go on and probably blame her for the break up. kind of sad if he has to go that route. But it will be good when they do break up because then aimee can be with someone that really does care about her. That is great news that they won’t be together much longer after school is out. 🙂

Since the time frame is coming closer, do you have any more details of what will happen between aimee and I over the summer? just a little curious. 🙂

Also, shannon seems to really be coming at me with wanting to hang out and she is really flirting with me a bunch. I’m trying to be a nice friend and not hurt her feelings by shooting her down, but I dont want to lead her on. Though she has been bringing up different guys she is talking to at random times, which i feel is an attempt to make me jealous. I believe this mainly because I have caught her doing it in the past and she fessed up to it. Just seems like she is coming on really strong all of a sudden and being super nice.

Thanks for the birthday wish! Yup going to turn 21 on saturday! 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I always felt like she was thinking of me before or even after we make eye contact. Every time it happens I get this sudden burst, and i mean burst, of energy and excitement. I am instantly in a better mood and it literally makes my day if im having a stressful day. I kind of wonder sometimes if she gets that same feeling when she sees me. I don’t know if it has to do with this connection or not, but it is pretty cool how it can do that. 🙂

Yea, I wish I could talk to her, but I guess it is just the way classes are scheduled. Is the fact that we keep making eye contact causing it to be more intriguing to aimee? Like maybe she wants to be with me and talk to me but knows she can’t right now?

The school doesnt have a policy against public displays of affection. I’ve seen other couples holding hands and even kissing. But never for aimee and mike. It just seems weird that he wouldnt at least hold her hand. that is why i have always had the sense that they wouldnt work out cause they just dont look like a couple.

I’ll try relaxing and focusing on the pictures when i get more time at the end of the week. Seeing my week is full of assignments and an exam. But when i first saw that she got into a relationship and I saw the pictures of them together, I didnt really feel too worried because i just had the sense that they weren’t going to work out. Even in the one picture where they are close physically, he doesnt have his arm around her or anything he is just standing there. what is found interesting is that in all her pictures of them both, they aren’t looking at each other. She seemed closer to her friend in the one picture with both of them then any picture of her and mike.

I’ll keep up checking her site and I’ll tell aimee that i want to take her out sometime, if she responds when i contact her after her and mike are through. Hopefully she will let me know when she wants to go out.

I applied to boeing a few days ago and got an email back that they received my resume and that i’m under consideration. They just closed the ad for the internship on friday, so i assume that they will be making their decision in the next week or two weeks. I hope that I get this because this is exactly what i want. I cant believe i am almost done my 3rd year of college already. It feels like i just started.

Since i had a lab for my one class last monday, the class that is close to aimee’s was in a different room, but on wednesday i heard the door of her class open and looked over and was waiting for her to come out, but when she did she didnt look across the hall into my room or anything she just sort of stormed off with mike behind her. It seemed like she was upset, possibly at mike. maybe because of her not liking the situation like you said. I’ll keep the positive energy flowing and hope it speeds things up. It has worked so far. 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

Everything I get a response from you it seems to be good news. 🙂

We didn’t have an extra day off during Easter weekend. We also had our spring break a week before everyone else, I guess that is just how our school does it. So it may be memorial day weekend that this may happen. It makes sense that aimee wouldnt want to end the relationship when they still have that class together. I didnt think they had much going on outside of school, they just dont seem like they are really in love, they just seem like friends. To this day i have never seen them holding hands. Not in pictures she has up or in person. I always sense that they wouldnt work out because just from looking at their pictures they didnt seem close. My cousin and her boyfriend are closer in their pictures then aimee and mike were and my cousin and her boyfriend fight all the time. I just had the feeling that if you were in love you would be a lot more affectionate.

I still think there is a significance to my dream as well. mainly because of the fact that i never really remember my dreams and when i do they come true. it is a weird feeling, but I’ve always felt they were a sign of things to come.

You know kathy, I never even though of it that way. Maybe I desire to wait for aimee’s relationship to end when shannon wanted to go out was good. That would have been a hard thing on me if i started dating shannon then aimee became available. And your right i do know i need to wait till aimee becomes available to see how things work out.

So you really think aimee will take me up on my offer for a date? That is pretty exciting. 🙂 for a first date, i was thinking maybe a movie, or something fun like mini golf. I’ll have to think it over, but I know i’m going to get her some tulips. Do you think i should tell her the same thing that you suggested before? that i would like to take her out sometime when she wants to go out? I’ll keep thinking positive thoughts, cant wait! 🙂

Is there anything more you can tell me about this unspoken connection between aimee and I?

thanks again kathy, for helping me through all this over the past few months. I cant wait till i can take aimee out and for us to possibly get together. I know that would really make me happy! 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

Things are getting pretty busy here with the end of the semester coming. lol I guess because my mind has been focused on that I have really run into or seen aimee recently. Though I may see her tomorrow because my one class will be next to hers. Even with being this busy, I’ve noticed I’ve been enjoying things more. I guess it is all this positive energy. 🙂

I wish I had a chance for to run into aimee, just her and I, where she would tell me what she wants to tell me. Though I am glad that just making eye contact is at least a positive step. maybe she will start thinking about going out with me. 🙂 I guess us seeing each other is causing both of us to think about each other, which in turns draws us together more.

I agree kathy, that verbal abuse should never be tolerated and I always felt like he had some anger problems. I am sure he will be nicer now that finals are coming and projects for classes are coming due. Also, I just recently found out, which almost confirms what you said about him using her help to better his grades. My college just recently released the Dean’s List for the last Fall semester and Aimee was on there of course, she probably still has her 4.0 gpa but Mike was not on the list this time. I believe that this is the first time he hasnt been on the Dean’s List since he has been in college.

I have been checking aimee’s site everyday like you suggested, but there hasnt been any change yet. When I do though, I will make sure you message her and hopefully she will respond without having to worry about mike, seeing he will be out of the picture by then. That is great that you dont see her needing time to heal anymore. That kind of sounds like she has basically moved on. I think she will be happier with me.

That would be great if we got together before the next school year and I wouldnt mind coming up on the weekend if it was to be with her. The time during the week would give me time to think of creative things to do with her during the weekend. I really do hope this happens because I’ve been waiting for this for a long time. Do you see anything that is going on between them now? Do you still think that they may break up around memorial day weekend or do you think that things have sped up? You have always been dead on when it has come to events that will happen soon, it amazes me how accurate you are. like the time you predicted I would see aimee again and that something will happen to break the ice and sure enough the next day she smiles and waves at me. 🙂

Also kathy, I wanted to ask about my friend shannon. recently the guy she was unofficially with and dating, started going out with another girl and she told me that she wasnt going to be second best to him so she broke it off. basically he told her that he didnt want to make their relationship official till after summer when they would be at college together. I personally think he was just playing her. She told me he used to do things to embarrass her in public. So I asked her then why did she even go out with him if she didnt like those things and she told me because she really liked him and thought he was really sweet and that he cared. Now I still think shannon has feelings for me, mainly because when we were talking a few months ago, I basically found out that I was the type of guy she was looking for, except that I dont have big muscles, just a big brain. lol But I get this strong feeling that she is rebounding on me because she is being a lot nicer then she usually is and is complimenting me all the time and constantly IMing me online and hinting to hanging out. Now she could just want to hang out to be friends, but I just gets this strong sense that she is rebounding and because she knows that I wouldnt lie to her and that I always tell her the truth and that I’m the type of guy she is looking for that it may be drawing her to me. Now I think shannon is a great girl and has a great personality, but I’m just not attracted to her like I am with aimee. And for some reason a few months ago, I felt like I was going to be put in a position to choose between aimee and another girl. And look where I’m at now. lol my intuition at it’s best. I just feel like I dont want to hurt her feelings but with the chance to be with aimee coming up very soon and having waited for as long as I have for aimee this just seems to have come at a bad time.

well I’ll keep up the positive energy……I dont think I can help it! Look at what it is getting me. The girl of my dreams. 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

Yea it is kind of magical, I’m glad I at least got this now. Do you think that us seeing each other more is causing her to think about me more? I’m glad she was touched by my mentioning of the tulips, i hope it put a smile on her face. 🙂

Yup saw mike by himself, I did know it was him till I passed him on the stairs because he had his head down like he was stressed and he didnt look happy at all. I dont know what was going on, but aimee wasnt there. Both times i have seen them in that area, they were both together and when i saw him i looked for her but she wasnt there. I wonder if maybe they got into an argument and she left and went to class. I’m not sure, but i have never seen him look angry and stressed like that. I’ve had a feeling for a while that he was taking her for granted and i think that will be his undoing. I wonder if my seeing aimee more and being positive has sped things up? Like maybe me mentioning things to aimee that i remember has caused her to start questioning mike and how he tunes her out. Cause honestly kathy, I havent felt this good in a while, I feel more confident, happy, and just more free. To think it all started by aimee breaking the ice with a smile and wave. And of course you sending me positive energy. 🙂

Kathy, i was thinking the exact same thing about the hour being the month and the minute being the date even before I told you about it. 🙂 I know it had an 8 in it. So i wonder if it will be the 8th of june seeing you said that trouble will be brewing around the beginning of June.

That is why i like aimee so much, because of her kind and giving nature, she always seems to think of others first. I hope she doesnt lose it because of mike. It makes sense that things will sped up when school is out seeing he wont need her anymore.

If they break up in June, what do you think is the chance of aimee and I getting together? You think it will be by the beginning of the next school year? I’ll keep up the positive energy. 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

I will try to run into aimee, from all the places and times i’ve run into her i’ve tried to run into her again and havent yet. Only times that i know i will almost always see her is mondays and wednesday when i am in the class across from hers that ends when mine begins. Problem is mike is also in that class.

You know kathy, i was thinking mike probably tunes her out because i got that impression from seeing them talking before. he seems to not care what she is talking about and just generally doesnt seem interested. Kind of makes me wonder if he just got together with her to help his own grades by using her. And your right, i do care about aimee a lot. We do have a lot of common interests, but I think we really talked a lot because I listened to her and i was interested in what she was talking about. I think that is the difference between Mike and I, he just seems to be using her to help himself, I just like seeing her smile and it makes me smile. It is just funny how something so small and turn my day around no matter how bad it is. 🙂

Aimee finally read my message on the 8th, she didnt respond, which i didnt expect her to but im glad she at least read it. It was right after we made eye contact on wednesday, but i was in class. Kind of wonder if she noticed that i remembered her favorite flower and that i said that in my message. It was weird because when i was at school, around midnight working on a project with a friend. I got a weird feeling and i always seem to get this feeling at random times. I cant explain how it feels. I wonder if maybe it is when aimee is thinking about me and i can feel it? I know that sounds weird but i always felt like i could feel what aimee was feeling and i guess that could have caused that instant click between us and why we always got along. I just wish i had more opportunities where i could do more then just make eye contact, but i always seem to see her when im in class or she is with mike.

I can’t remember the exact time, but i know it had an 8 in it. so i dont know if it was 6:08, 6:18, 6:38, etc. i remember is there was a 6 but it ended in 8. Memorial Day weekend seems a lot sooner then i thought they would break up, i know it isnt set in stone but that is great news for me. 🙂 What do you think the disturbance is going to be? just what you have told me before about what will pull them apart?

I’ll keep looking for hint on aimee’s site and trying to run into her. Also, I found this rather interesting. Today, I was going to my 2 o’clock class and i have seen aimee and mike occasionally on my walk to this class. Well today, I just saw mike, by himself, where i have always seen both of them together. I passed him on the stairs, i’m guessing aimee never said anything to him about me cause he has never given me any problem or even acted like he knew who i was. But he seems stressed and angry. I just found it interesting that a place i have always seen both of them together, it was only him and for him to look like he was angry, I wonder if they got into an argument.

[brian424]

hey kathy,

All this positive energy is great. I think i’m happier then i’ve been in a long time. I’m just happy that aimee wants to talk more, which i at least want to be able to talk to her. It just seemed like she avoided me because of mike. Which is why it surprised me when she was the first to wave and smile. I’m prepared, so hopefully i get a chance to talk to her alone and not with mike around.

I had sent aimee that message wishing her a happy easter, on easter night, but like you said i dont think she will respond to that either, i just wanted her to see that i was thinking about her, with what i said about the tulips. Every time i see tulips it reminds me of her. Everything she has ever told me about herself, i remember. 🙂 Do you know what she wants to talk to me about?

I think i not being in her life is what is lacking in aimee’s life, because i know when we used to talk she used to be so happy and i could never find her without a smile on her face, even if she was stressed because of school. it was like i felt an instant connection with her and we always got along. I think she may have felt that connection too. I didnt know she missed our conversations, i didnt know i meant that much to her. that actually makes me happy to know that and that she misses something about me. 🙂 I miss talking to her too and joking around with her. It is funny how something as little as talking to someone, you can miss so much, but dont realize it till they are gone.

I know the future isnt set in stone or anything, but i hope that aimee does realize that mike will neglect her. I think that i would be perfect for her, cause she seems to be exactly what i’m looking for in a girlfriend. I am always interested in what is going on with her, I listen and remember everything she tells me, she makes me smile all the time and feel good about myself. I think she likes the little romantic things and I know i would do the little things for her just to see her smile, heck i have done little things for her in the past.

I just happen to read a finance article when i got online, it popped up when i opened my browser and it was talking about recent college grads having trouble getting employment this may because of the economy and companies not wanting to hire. They said that it was down for mostly finance and accounting majors and that they would feel the cut back the most, which is what mike and aimee are. But that the majors that were in demand were technical majors, which is what i am. But i just found it coincidental that i would see that today when you were talking about how mike might not be able to find employment or have trouble finding employment this summer. It is like all the pieces are falling in place to set up for their break up.

Also, Sunday night i had a dream about aimee and their break up. I havent had a dream i could remember when waking up in a long time, but i just happened to have this dream where i got on her site and it was changed and it said she was single. It felt like it was real and then i woke up. It was weird because it woke me up around 6am, which isnt the time i had my alarm set for and i just found it interesting that it woke me up at 6 and june being a possible break up month for them. This isnt the first time i had this type of dream either, i had it before when she was with her ex and then they broke up. I didnt know what to make of it, but it always seems like when i dont remember my dreams for a while then i actually do, that dream seems to come true some time down the road. Back when you got a big fat 3 around mid-march, that is starting to make a lot more sense now, cause we get out around mid-may and then it would seem that a month of trying to find employment for mike and maybe not finding would be frustrating and could cause the vision that you saw. I hope it does happen.

I cant wait till i can finally start talking to aimee again. 🙂

[brian424]

hey kathy,

Yea it feels pretty good having all this positive energy. it seems even when im swamped with assignments and am down because of that I just sit back and take a breath and i feel great again. I’m glad the ice has been broken and i hope that it leads to aimee and I talking more. I was surprised that she was the one that took the initiative. That makes me think that she hasnt forgotten about me and maybe has been thinking about me. It made my day when she did that. 🙂

I would love to be the friend that aimee could talk to and I have told her in the past that if she needed someone to talk to that she could talk to me. Do you think she will start opening up to me now that the ice has been broken? I always have the feeling that she still likes me and I am sure she knows that i like her. 🙂 I guess i’m just used to when a girl likes me they always want to talk to me, etc and i can really tell, but with aimee it seems like she hides her feelings, to prevent from getting hurt. But i’m not sure. It just seems like she is the type of person that has a bunch of friends but doesnt really have a “best friend” so to say that she can talk to about anything that is going on. Seems like that should be the job of a boyfriend, but i guess mike just isnt interested in doing that.

I’m not certain if aimee has listened to my music or not, but it still doesnt seem like it because on my musics page there are counters of views, plays of the day, total plays of a song, etc. and i can almost account for who listened when, but im not 100% sure. I wouldnt doubt that mike keeps an eye on when she goes on that site. though her site is private so unless you are her friend you cant see it, but im sure he watches when she logs on. She doesnt seem to communicate with a lot of friends on there anymore. It seems like she would talk to me a lot on there until she got into this relationship.

The mike’s site is a national social networking site. It just really seems like him, though i havent met him i just get a feeling. Do you think he has already mentally moved on from her and is just staying in the relationship till the end of the semester?

I sent aimee a message wishing her a happy easter, but she hasnt been on to check it yet so i dont know if she will respond to that or not, but i basically said that when i saw some tulips over my grandmothers that it reminded me of her and that i wanted to wish her a happy easter. Seeing tulips are her favorite flower. lol i still remember that from so long ago. Just seems like everything is falling in place all of a sudden, in a good way. It is just crazy how something as little as a smile from aimee and make my day.

Is there anything else i can do that will attract aimee to me? Do you see that we will run into each other where i can actually talk to her instead of one of us being in a class and just being able to wave and smile? you were dead on with your other two predictions of me running into her.

thanks again kathy. I just can seem to keep a smile off my face when i read your last post. 🙂

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