Thank you for your insight kathy. Best wishes to you too! 🙂

I just read my question – and i’m not “sure it will be ok” – i guess that’s my question….

I’ve tried putting everything in writing through texts, emails and letters – she’s read and kept them all but we are still apart 🙁 she isn’t or hasn’t seen anyone else since we’ve been apart and has said as i have that we don’t want anyone else, so this is what’s confusing me. We’ve always been honest and open with each other and would tell the…[Read more]

She won’t talk though, each time i try she just gets het up and angry before i even start. I love to talk, always have done, i’m one of those people that like to sort out an issue straight away and not dwell on it whereas she dwells and bottles things up. It’s been 7 mths now and as you can imagine its killing me being apart from my family, i do…[Read more]

No, probably not. We’ve both cheated on each other and i dought either of us can ever really truely trust the other. I have no passion or desire for him sexually.

Well thank you chandler. Thats exactly how i feel…like i am in stasis. And that last comment was brilliant… “..impress the hell out of myself and become extremely pleased with my life. ”
it was helpful

I’m wondering if i should just try harder and work on my marriage. It would be easier.
Should i just be doing that?

Well…i have been fooling myself and everyone else. I can’t afford much, not even to move out. But i think your right..i do need to hang out with positive people. I’m sort of a negative person about myself lately. And i don’t plan on ending things with him yet. Maybe distancing myself a from him to work on me and friendships. I have never been…[Read more]

So i’m guessing there’s no baby in my future either. I was hoping to have one with this man also but with his fertility issues it seems impossible. Thats partly why i hung onto him also.

I’m amazed. I have been a recluse. I may have lost friendships over it. Hopefully not but i do need to get out and do things. I guess i have been doughting him & this relationship for a reason. I’ve heard lies that he’s the one but yet i still wasn’t happy hearing that. Clearly for a reason.
I’m so happy i found this site and thankful you answered…[Read more]

I would if i knew that. Yes.
I want someone just like him but all of what you said. I wanted another baby. I didn’t want to be alone. I feel that if i looked, every other man might not measure up to him. And i don’t know how to let go. Or if i should take a chance.

The boat thing makes sense. He lives far away from me & it’s a boat ride or plane ride away. I could do the open relationship thing as long as its only me & her. But i have kids. And i’d be moving them 5 hrs away from their life so i can be with him. I’m wondering of he’s worth it or not.

Thank you so much for replying.
I have been pressuring him. I even gave him a deadline or i walk. But i really don’t want to walk away without him, i don’t think i can. I wonder if he is staying with the right girl then?

Kimberly

First of all you should know that I am not a trained, or trainee, psychic so i hope you don’t mind if i add my comments, but something about your situation resonates with me.

I can’t help wondering if this feeling you have that “something will happen so that you don’t have to move”, is in fact a feeling that “everything is going to be…[Read more]

ok, I understand better now 🙂

I was so keen for a definite and specific outcome to be spelled out for me that I lost sight of the fact that I can shape my own future -at least to some extent- whether this is done consciously or not. But of course, when someone else is involved they may choose to steer in an entirely different direction!

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Hi Kathy N, thanks for such a quick reply and warm welcome 🙂

I’m trying to develop my own intuitive skills but I can’t even read my own situation well and worry that if i ask this man directly I might just scare him away altogether! Your response makes perfect sense to me, but I was hoping to know if there is more of the passion in store for us,…[Read more]

@sg01001 wrote:

There is no easy way out of that at all. I went through it myself. To a degree, I think it is always kind of there because it is a situation that just isn’t “right” therefore (at least for me) I can never feel 100%. Does that make sense? It is now several yrs later and it never fully goes away but it does get better. I tell myself…

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Hi Fiona,
I do have a hard time cooperating with others at times.
I do love Aaron, but the room mate situation where I am, isn’t that good. I don’t feel I can trust them.
I also understand what you’re saying. I don’t know about his dad though. Bill is unpredictible.
Blessings,
Veronica_h

Hi Kathy N and everyone,
Aaron and I are suppose to get together. The thing is, Aaron wants to live with me. I don’t know what I’m going to do about where I am going to live, the housing authority or hud is closed where I am, I’m on a fixed income as I’m blind, and my aunt won’t let me establish credit to get an apartment.
Aaron’s dad Bill seems…[Read more]

Thanks Kathy. No, I don’t want it to be an on/off relationship. I think his major issue is commitment … when I told him how I felt he backed off big time 🙁 But it was always him that was the one to re-establish contact with me. This time I’m not so sure – I have heard nothing from him. Does he just need some space and time??