Pushing won’t make things better, so be careful, don’t go try to get information through her sister, bad idea, especially if she is agitated too, some things need to be waited out, if she is meant to be with you she will Back, give her space, or you may make things worse

If it is bad I hope so, my question mirrors yours, financially I can’t make it alone, but I am miserable 98%
Over 18yrs devotion to relationship
Please help