Hello fiona and kathy. Sorry it took me such a long time to reply. I haven’t had access to a computer in a while due to my laptop no longer working. I will definitely make sure to have a big hand in this visitation. I will be staying close by and my youngest daughter will be with me the entire time. She gets nervous like most toddlers do around…[Read more]

Hi kathy i just wanted to update you on what was going on with me. We moved to ny and everything is going well. Im still looking for a job. I am hoping to find one really soon. We are currently staying with my sister. My daughters are doing really well here in ny. They are happy and love ny. They love the sights and we always seem to have…[Read more]

I have decided to not ask my ex to sit and talk with the girls about us not being together. At this point i’m a little uncomfortable around him cause the other day he exploded at me and told me he couldn’t stand me and cussed at me. I know that asking him to talk to the girls together would result in him saying no. I don’t know what i’ve done for…[Read more]

You are so right when you say the hard part is waiting. It seems like the 31st is so far away. Even thouggh it really isn’t. And it feels like there is so much to do before we leave. But I guess before we know it, the day to leave for NY will be here! I do plan on sending my ex pictures of the girls so he can see how they are growing up.

I would love to meet someone in NY once I get settled. And of course the most important thing is that he is kind to my daughters. Thank you so much for your advice and best wishes. 🙂 I can’t wait to be in NY so my daughters and I will be happy like we deserve to be.

I really hope that he does keep in contact with the girls so they can remain…[Read more]

I will ask him tomorrow when I get the chance. I hope he agrees to it but I have a feeling he won’t. He acts as if he can’t stand to even talk or be around me so I doubt he’d say yes. But its worth a shot. His mother and I have plenty of times told him that he needs to spend alone time with the girls. He some reason won’t do that. Everytime he…[Read more]

Oh sorry I forgot to answer your question. I think he does realize how this is affecting my oldest daughter but he doesn’t kow what to do. He feels guilty for that but it still doesn’t get him to make better decisions. He thinks that just because she’s 5 that she doesn’t understand what is going on. And that just because she might go to his house…[Read more]

He does tell the girls that he loves them. But I don’t know if he has explained anything to them yet. I don’t think he has but I don’t know what he says to them when they are spending time with him. I have a hard time explaining things to him because everytime I try to. He gets and attitude and rolls his eyes. He basically brushes me off. Even…[Read more]

He actually didn’t explain anything to the children. I don’t know how he will explain himself once they get older or if he ever will. My oldest daughter is who I worry about the most in this situation. She is feeling as if her father left her to be a father to 4 other children. Its really sad. I’m thankful my 14 month old doesn’t know whats going…[Read more]

Maybe one day my friend and I could work things out. If we don’t its ok cause I know i’ll be ok. I definitely look forward to making new friends in NY. Is it normal for me to feel a little guilty for taking the girls with me to NY and taking them 14 hours away from their father? Today i’ve also been feeling a lot of guilt for that. I’m worried…[Read more]

Thank you so much Kathy. Its just been really rough since yesterday. A girl who I thought was one of my best friends yesterday just exploded at me and told me that i’m pushy and that because i’m pushy (or she thinks i’m pushy) that is probably the main reason as to why we broke up. It really hurt hearing that. Its awful even hearing that from…[Read more]

Thank you ladies so much for your advice. I am doing the best I can to focus on moving and my daughters. I am very excited about what the future might have in store for me. However I think what holds me back is just wondering if this was all my fault. I have been told that I am pushy and that its probably the reason as to why he left. So thats…[Read more]

You are so right about the selfishness. That is one thing we used to argue about is how selfish he is. He is still showing a lot of selfishness. And my couch is brown so you were somewhat right about the color. I definitely plan on moving on and doing something with my life. I love to help others as much as I can. They are so many people in my…[Read more]

Hi Fiona. Thank you so much for your psychic impressions. I do agree that my ex does put on a surface attitude. I don’t really understand why he does that though. Why do you think he does that? Gary works 3rd shift at Walmart doing Maintnence. He has tried to go for Manager positions there at Walmart. I don’t know if he has gotten one yet or is…[Read more]