I’m going through the same thing and it’s highly recommended that you give him 30 days of zero contact, none at all. He needs time to calm down and not associate you with everything bad that happened. After 30 days, reach out via text and day something positive. You could use something like “remember when….” anything that he would smile or laugh about. You want him to see you in a positive light. Let go of the negative now so when you do reach out you are in a positive frame of mind. People can sense negativity and positivity. In the meantime, work on you and be strong!! I wish you the best like I said, I’m going through the exact same thing but you can do this!