Hi Eloh: My intuitive impression is that you are making a mistake if you move forward with this new person you are attracted to. The attraction will fade. If you can engage with this new man without expecting anything long term in return, then fine. But if you can not you will end up badly singed. As for leaving your marriage. That is only a decision you can make. I can not tell you what to do. I can only tell you what I see. What I see is that even though your marriage is not the crazy fireworks type of marriage, it is still a good marriage. Your present spouse is a good man. My intuitive impression is that ten years from now you may look back on this present marriage with longing and regret. I do not however even then seeing your life being a shambles. You will be fine, but you may have some regrets about leaving your present marriage. Nevertheless you will survive and you will live a good life. So the decision to stay or go is up to you. How to leave your marriage without hurting your husband. Well alas, I do not see anyway to do that. He will be hurt, but life is filled with hurt and disappointments mixed with the good. In a sense you will be setting him free to meet someone who does love him. So, if you keep that in mind, it may cause less discomfort for you. Your concern about hurting him shows you are a good person in your heart. But if you feel trapped and need to end things, if you do it with kindness, it is all you can do.
I’ve decided we’re going to try to work through it I’m just not 100% sure it’s the right decision but it’s what I’m going with I really appreciate you taking the time out to answer me an give me your insight I really need guidance and I really appreciate the help thank you so much
Hi Eloh: My intuitive impression is that you are making a mistake if you move forward with this new person you are attracted to. The attraction will fade. If you can engage with this new man without expecting anything long term in return, then fine. But if you can not you will end up badly singed. As for leaving your marriage. That is only a decision you can make. I can not tell you what to do. I can only tell you what I see. What I see is that even though your marriage is not the crazy fireworks type of marriage, it is still a good marriage. Your present spouse is a good man. My intuitive impression is that ten years from now you may look back on this present marriage with longing and regret. I do not however even then seeing your life being a shambles. You will be fine, but you may have some regrets about leaving your present marriage. Nevertheless you will survive and you will live a good life. So the decision to stay or go is up to you. How to leave your marriage without hurting your husband. Well alas, I do not see anyway to do that. He will be hurt, but life is filled with hurt and disappointments mixed with the good. In a sense you will be setting him free to meet someone who does love him. So, if you keep that in mind, it may cause less discomfort for you. Your concern about hurting him shows you are a good person in your heart. But if you feel trapped and need to end things, if you do it with kindness, it is all you can do.
Thank you so much mason
I’ve decided we’re going to try to work through it I’m just not 100% sure it’s the right decision but it’s what I’m going with I really appreciate you taking the time out to answer me an give me your insight I really need guidance and I really appreciate the help thank you so much