She is not treating your right. Are you sure you really want to hear from her again? If it is her intention to string you along and then act aloof toward you in public, you do not need her in your life. I have a stong feeling that you will meet someone new very soon and be happy. It won’t matter so much about your ex anymore.

Best wishes,
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It appears that she doesn’t know what she wants right now. Do you honestly feel that you could trust her again if she does come back? She came out of a relationship and married you. When she married you could it possibly have been on the rebound from her previous affair? If she should want to come back to your marriage you might want to make…[Read more]

It is important not to completely close the door on a relationship right now. First you might want to find out where another friendship might lead? Actually, there is no one person who can fulfill all of our needs. True happiness must come from within. So if you are considering ending a relationship, it is not a good idea to jump right into…[Read more]

You can probably sense that he has respect for you professionally. Just take this opportunity to get to know him better. You should have a better feeling about this situation soon. Just accept this association as it is now, and let the friendship develop. It is important to be patient and not rush anything.

Best wishes,
🙂

You have had to adjust to some major life changes all within a very brief period of time. I sense that you are feeling confused as to which direction to take? You express yourself very well in written communication. It is easy to see that you are a very intelligent lady. You can break this connection with the man you have moved on from. He is…[Read more]

Unfortunately, there is no such thing as a perfect job. You have been trying to follow a career path that you feel suited for. You obviously enjoy helping people. Have you considered training to be a counselor? For now you might want to rely on the training that you already have and get settled in a work routine. You will meet new people.…[Read more]

Your ex will ultimately influence how his daughters feel about him. You are so right– if he keeps in touch they will remember him. If he doesn’t, they are likely not to remember much about him. You could have your girls send pictures to him. This would be a reminder of how quickly time passes and they will be growing.

You know in your heart…[Read more]

You will know in you heart that you have tried when you ask him to talk to your daughters with you. I sense that his new relationship will not last for the long term. So you need not worry about what she will think. If he wants to remain close to his daughters he needs to make an effort. They are very young and if he doesn’t keep in contact…[Read more]

If he would agree to it, now would be a good time for both of you to sit down with the girls and explain that while you are no longer living together as a family, both their daddy and you love them very much. It would be more beneficial to the girls if he would take them somewhere on an outing to spend quality time with them instead of taking…[Read more]

He should explain to his daughters that even though they will not be living together as a family, he still loves them very much. You will allow him to see them if he wants. There is time for him to talk to them before you move out of the area. He should do this while he has the chance. So if the opportunity presents itself, you might want to…[Read more]

Kimberly,
Don’t worry about your friend. In time she will feel very sorry she acted this way. Your ex chose to leave his family. How did he choose to explain this to his daughters? You are doing the best you can by moving back to where you have family who can help you. You can work out a custody and visiting arrangement with your ex. He…[Read more]

Kimberly,
I sense that your friend was caught up in her own thoughts and things weren’t going well for her. That is why she made that remark. Good friends are supposed to help each other through difficult times. Not kick someone when they are down Just focus on your move and making new friends.

Best wishes,
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I sense you are having some doubts about your 4 year relationship? Also if you can get ahead financially? If you could secure a job that would meet your individual financial needs, this would help to boost your confidence. You would also feel more in a position to make decisions for yourself.

Your questions don’t contain a lot of information…[Read more]

Kimberly,
Please don’t blame yourself for what went wrong in this relationship. If he was uncomfortable with aspects of the relationship he should have wanted to discuss the situation before leaving. He might not know what he really wants right now. You are doing your best to move on and I do believe you will benefit from putting some…[Read more]

If you could please tell us a bit more about your situation we will do our best to help you. Do you have a specific question?

Best wishes,
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You have been chatting for over a month — have you discussed meeting in person? You obviously enjoy this communication, do you feel that it is time to meet? If he drags his feet about doing this he might have some other things going on as well. If you are able to actually meet him you will have a better sense if this is something you wish to…[Read more]

Kimberly,
It is only natural that you are having these feeling of conflict right now. You have made the decision to move back to New York where you have family who can help you. Your daughters will also benefit from having family nearby. Your ex should be providing financial support for your daughters. You might do well to consult an attorney…[Read more]

Kimberly,
Welcome to the forums! So glad that you are finding them interesting and informative–

Best wishes,
🙂

Helen,
Our future isn’t exactly set in stone. A lot depends upon the path that we choose to take. In this case the road to this particular friendship might have different results regarding the actions that you choose to take. You are already feeling that a long term relationship in not in store, but you are seeing the possibility of a lasting…[Read more]

Helen,
Welcome to the forums! You feel that you have met him for a purpose. If you feel that a romantic relationship will not be for the long term, there is no reason why you couldn’t remain friends. The purpose of your meeting him might come to light as you continue to communicate with him. Because of your geographical distance you aren’t…[Read more]