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How to get a ex to want you back and also reget that they left you and their kids and to hopefully make sure that they never leave you and their kids again
Hi cool1! Not sure if you ever figured out your situation or not but I have been in your shoes before. If you truly believe that this person is worth it then the best way to get them to come back and to stay is to try to get to the bottom of why they left in the first place and try to repair the issue. However, in my experience I found that the best possible thing to do is just to focus on yourself and your children. If the other person wants to be involved then they will but the best thing for your children and your own Sanity is to ensure that the little ones and you are 100% whether the other parent is with you or not. Hope you’ve found some type of peace.
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I wouldnt even try usually they r ex s for a reason but saying that you heart might say differant im in same situation at tge min where i have an ex who left for an arranged marriage n we r still in touch n i also am contempkating do i try or not n i think in my heart real answer is if ge had loved me he wouldnt have married her he eould have found his way back to me
Hey Cool1, by now you may have already resolved your situation but in case you haven’t I can only say that no one should ever try to force another to be with them. Any kind of magic used in such a situation can and most likely will come back to haunt you. Karma can be a b***h you know.
With that said you have kids involved. I have found when I went through a similar situation when I had kids that I needed to keep any contact, especially when the kids around, positive. Keeping positive energy around the kids helps them to be able to cope with the situation. Kids are very aware of what is going on and when their energies are stifled by a negative situation their inner growth slows or stops. We all know what that can cause.
I recommend that you make sure that you keep contact with them and let your girl know that you will be a part of their lives. It can be rough on the emotions but anyone going through this has to bite the bullet and move on and rebuild.
I believe everything that happens to us is a lesson for us to learn something. Hang in there, keep positive energies flowing, and know that there is always something good awaiting you.
I hope the situation has resolved for you. If not, I believe the best thing you can do is to keep focused on what you can do for self improvement and how to best raise your kids given the situation. I also recommend reading books about reconciliation or making peace with heartbreak. One book I’ve been reading that I recommend is “I Thought We’d Never Speak Again” by Laura Davis. The important thing to remember in regards to reconciliation is that you might not fully reconcile with an estranged relationship but you can still reconcile your struggling feelings and be able to move on. That is definitely easier said than done and I’m struggling in that area myself but I hope you deal with struggles better.
Hi! Just because your ex isn’t with you at the moment does not necessarily mean that they’re not meant to be with you. Sometimes, there are underlying situations like: (Miscommunication, Love, Passion and Desire) that cause problems such as
Cheating, Distrust and Dishonesty. Many times we see these problems arise early within our relationship and remain silent. This is the wrong thing to do. If you notice this happening try to get a handle on it right away. Past experiences have taught me to not look over problems arising within the relationship and to speak up.
I hope that this helps!!!First make sure you have yourself (Mind, Body,Soul) together before you try to get back with them. Many times we try to fix our relationship but fail to fix and or repair ourselves. We have to work on ourselves first and then we can seek restoration of the relationship. I have learned that changing the way that I view things also changes the way I approach and repair them. Focus your attention on yourself and heal yourself first because you are no good to him in your present condition. Good luck!
I hope the situation has resolved for you. If not, I believe the best thing you can do is to keep focused on what you can do for self improvement and how to best raise your kids given the situation. I also recommend reading books about reconciliation or making peace with heartbreak. One book I’ve been reading that I recommend is “I Thought We’d Never Speak Again” by Laura Davis. The important thing to remember in regards to reconciliation is that you might not fully reconcile with an estranged relationship but you can still reconcile your struggling feelings and be able to move on. That is definitely easier said than done and I’m struggling in that area myself but I hope you deal with struggles better.
I’m going through something similar this excellent advice. Thanks!
I’m going through something similar this excellent advice. Thanks! jwalk415
https://www.lifeleap.org/bring-back-my-ex/
This resource posted by FionaM is excellent. Raising the bar on our energy and sending out the best thoughts keeps the connection positive regardless of the outcome.
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