You need to tell him that you dont want anything more than friendship with him…that theres no possible way to be friends with benefits.. that he had a chance to be with you sexually or otherwise and he blew it and it’s too late and since he didnt really like or love you when you were together you dont believe he ever will . That you are a beautiful amazing worthy woman who will NOT be anyone’s booty call, their 2nd choice or their back up plan.. it’s all or nothing with you and if he doesnt want all or nothing exclusively with you then he can attempt to be friends but save the sexual stuff for his girlfriend and of he wants to talk about regular topics that friends talk about then hes welcome to,but ifnot.. you can’t be around him or have any sort of relationship with him at all… that he clearly doesnt value any 1 woman and he doesnt know how to love anyone ….its not your problem and it was never you the reason why the relationship didnt work it was always him…. and that you really feel sorry 4 Jim if he can never find love and appreciate 1 woman ….